A will have a test on social study this Friday, so for the past 2 days, he’s been bringing his social study book home. I told A that I would love to learn what ever he’s learning on social study cause that’s how I learn about American history.
Last night, I was reading the book and to mark where I left, I used whatever I can find nearby which was a Target gift card envelope with bunch of gift cards in it. This morning, of course as usual, we got chaotic and when A asked about his social study book, I just grabbed it and put it in his backpack without thinking.
In the afternoon when I picked him up from the bus stop, A asked me whether I know something about bunch of Target gift card. As soon as he said it, I gasped. OMG! I forgot about them didnt I??! So he assurred me that he got all the gift cards in safe place at school.
When I came home from work at night, A then told me an additional story about the gift card incident.
He said jokingly
“Mom, you owe me bunch of Pokemon card?”
Why is that? I replied.
“I had to give away bunch of my card so that I can get one of your Target gift card back”.
What do you mean?”
They fell on the floor, and one of my friends found it and would not give it back to me eventhough I have told him that they are mine. So I have to trade my Pokeman cards.
No. I was not too happy to hear that.
I was not happy because I felt A’s friend does not value the friendship as I would want him to.
I was not happy because I felt A was being ‘blackmailed’ and was ‘forced’ to give up something that he really likes to get something that belongs to him!
I was not happy because A really considers this boy a close friend of him, but what I heard does not reflect an act of a true friend at all.
I was upset, not to A, but feeling that A was being betrayed of his friend without him knowing.
Later, I approached my little boy.
I asked him whether we have to receive a reward for returning something that does not belong to us.
He said no. I feel relieve. I can’t control other kids, but at least I know mine will do the right thing.
So I asked him another question : why would he give up his Pokemon card, knowing how he really loves his Pokemon card.
‘But Mom. That’s the only way I could get that Target gift cards back for you!’
there, I know I am still loved.